Men and Self-Care: Why It Matters and How to Start

Faye Court
May 26
2 min read

For a long time, self-care has been wrongly labelled as something only for women—bubble baths, candles, face masks, and journaling. But real self-care is much broader than that. It’s about tuning in to your physical, emotional, and mental needs, and taking proactive steps to protect your wellbeing. And it’s just as essential for men.

Why Self-Care Matters for Men

Men are just as vulnerable to stress, burnout, depression, and anxiety as anyone else—but they’re often less likely to talk about it or seek help. Cultural expectations around masculinity can make it harder for men to feel comfortable prioritising their wellbeing or asking for support. This can lead to stress building up quietly and causing deeper harm over time.

Practising self-care can:

Improve mental clarity and emotional balance
Reduce the risk of anxiety and depression
Boost physical health and energy levels
Strengthen relationships with others
Increase resilience during challenging times

Self-care isn’t selfish—it’s a foundation for living a healthy, balanced life. It helps you be more present and effective in your roles as a partner, friend, parent, colleague, or leader.

What Does Self-Care Look Like for Men?

Self-care doesn’t have to look a certain way. It’s personal, and it’s about what makes you feel grounded, healthy, and in control. Here are some ideas tailored for men:

1. Physical Care

Get moving: Whether it’s walking, swimming, weightlifting, or playing football, regular physical activity supports both body and mind.
Sleep matters: Prioritise good sleep routines—aim for 7–9 hours.
Eat well: Nourish your body with foods that fuel you, and make time for proper meals instead of skipping or rushing.

2. Mental and Emotional Care

Talk it out: Connect with a friend, join a men's group, or speak to a therapist. Expressing emotions is a strength, not a weakness.
Journaling: It doesn’t have to be long or poetic. Jotting down a few thoughts or goals can help you track your mood and priorities.
Take a break: Set boundaries around work and screen time. Rest is productive too.

3. Practical Self-Care

Stay on top of life admin: Organise your finances, schedule medical check-ups, plan your week.
Declutter your space: A clean environment can improve focus and reduce stress.

4. Do What Brings You Joy

Whether it’s fixing something, hiking, playing music, learning a new skill, or even doing nothing for a bit—make time for what lifts you up.

Changing the Narrative

Self-care isn't "soft." It's smart. It's strategic. It’s about recognising that if you don't take care of yourself, you can't show up fully for others. Men need safe, non-judgemental spaces where self-care and mental health are normalised and supported.

We’re slowly breaking down outdated stereotypes, and it starts with each man making the decision to put himself on the priority list.

Final Thought

If you're a man reading this, know that it’s okay to rest. It’s okay to say no. It’s okay to ask for help. And it’s okay to care deeply about your wellbeing. Self-care isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being present, healthy, and true to yourself.

If you're local to Devon, why not try our Men’s Wellbeing Hour? It’s a relaxed space to stretch, breathe, connect, and start building healthy habits. No pressure, no judgement—just real self-care.

Because you matter too.